1. Goat enclosure is finished enough to move the #goats into it, and it's really nice to see the babies jumping around. They have an 8m x 30m grass/brush slope with a big shelter at the top and lots of trees for shade. Final works Monday to reinforce the fence and rustproof the gate.
2. I need to stop saying yes to junk food when wife is in town and texts "shall I get you a Jollibee on the way home?" The taste in the moment is nice but I always suffer afterwards. Maybe it's MSG or maltodextrin but I always end up horribly bloated and uncomfortable for at least 2 hours. Why don't I ever, ever learn from this? Is that my #ADHD?
3. This morning I was moved to make a long post about #neurodivergent #peoplepleasing but I think I posted at the wrong time of day for my usual audience... so here's the link to it.
Drew 🇵🇭 (@[email protected])
#PeoplePleasing when you're #neurodivergent... Sometimes a response to complex, prolonged trauma. Sometimes part of #masking in an attempt to reduce #RSD or #autistic #anxiety "in the moment". It's essentially a panic reaction (or so it seems to me), and is probably the result of years of harsh judgement from NTs. I did it my whole life but didn't realise until I read Pete Walker's book on #CPTSD (I have other issues with that book but it helped me at the time). It's insidious and damaging. You often don't realise you're doing it. You risk losing your own identity and becoming just a reflection of others. And, of course, attempting to please everyone is simply impossible and you end up making even fewer people happy than before - and you'll almost certainly be unhappy yourself. It's good to sense the currents (if *everyone* seems to have the same view of your actions, you should perhaps at least try to work out why), but reacting to every rock dropped in the water is just playing whack-a-mole with yourself - or letting others play whack-a-mole with you. Long post... but I see people trying to change tack as a result of one instance of negative feedback, making themselves miserable in the process, and all my years of pain make it a massive trigger for me so I can't keep quiet. In summary: "To thine own self be true" - Someone, I forget who. Shakespeare? Obi-wan Kenobi? I'm sure someone will know.




