#Today #3Things

1. Goat enclosure is finished enough to move the #goats into it, and it's really nice to see the babies jumping around. They have an 8m x 30m grass/brush slope with a big shelter at the top and lots of trees for shade. Final works Monday to reinforce the fence and rustproof the gate.

2. I need to stop saying yes to junk food when wife is in town and texts "shall I get you a Jollibee on the way home?" The taste in the moment is nice but I always suffer afterwards. Maybe it's MSG or maltodextrin but I always end up horribly bloated and uncomfortable for at least 2 hours. Why don't I ever, ever learn from this? Is that my #ADHD?

3. This morning I was moved to make a long post about #neurodivergent #peoplepleasing but I think I posted at the wrong time of day for my usual audience... so here's the link to it.

https://ieji.de/@drewph/116700331419323854

Drew 🇵🇭 (@[email protected])

#PeoplePleasing when you're #neurodivergent... Sometimes a response to complex, prolonged trauma. Sometimes part of #masking in an attempt to reduce #RSD or #autistic #anxiety "in the moment". It's essentially a panic reaction (or so it seems to me), and is probably the result of years of harsh judgement from NTs. I did it my whole life but didn't realise until I read Pete Walker's book on #CPTSD (I have other issues with that book but it helped me at the time). It's insidious and damaging. You often don't realise you're doing it. You risk losing your own identity and becoming just a reflection of others. And, of course, attempting to please everyone is simply impossible and you end up making even fewer people happy than before - and you'll almost certainly be unhappy yourself. It's good to sense the currents (if *everyone* seems to have the same view of your actions, you should perhaps at least try to work out why), but reacting to every rock dropped in the water is just playing whack-a-mole with yourself - or letting others play whack-a-mole with you. Long post... but I see people trying to change tack as a result of one instance of negative feedback, making themselves miserable in the process, and all my years of pain make it a massive trigger for me so I can't keep quiet. In summary: "To thine own self be true" - Someone, I forget who. Shakespeare? Obi-wan Kenobi? I'm sure someone will know.

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#Today #3Things

A quiet day.

1. Finalising track layout details and parts purchasing lists for the #NGauge #ModelRailway I'm building.

2. Inspecting the work in progress on the footbridge and goat enclosure.

3. Some time spent comforting Max (our smallest dog) due to much thunder rumbling over the hills to the east. He's terrified of storms and is only pacified by curling up on my shoulder and putting his head on my face. However, because he weighs 10kg and is not an olympic gymnast, this means I have to stop whatever I'm doing and lie down on the bed with him until the storm's gone. Tough job but someone has to do it.

#Today #3Things

1. In very non-scientific tests, Deep Heat rub beats Diclofenac 2.3% gel for easing my arthritic hand and finger pain and inflammation.

2. Got our 2 new solar lights installed at the front of the property. They'll need 24 hours to fully charge then I'll set them so they're on all night but go brighter when there's movement.

3. Yesterday I had a series of emails from mid-level staff at a client, requesting pricing for some quite significant tasks. Today I had a series of emails from their boss (who's actually a close friend), explaining that they were acting without authority and basically knocking it all on the head. Hey ho, the client giveth, the client taketh away. It may still happen but probably not as soon.

#Today #3Things

1. I wish people would make better use of hashtags on here - especially political posts. Some of us hate politics and really don't want to see ANY political posts, and without hashtags filtering is very hit-and-miss.

2. Now we've finished fencing our smallholding, our 3 workers are finally free to deal with some of the other issues that have been piling up. So they're working on a big fenced pen (30m x 6m) for the goats, and a new welded metal footbridge (made entirely of construction leftovers) for the creek near the south end, replacing the disintegrating coconut lumber one.

3. Our neighbour saw someone prowling near our front gates last night on his CCTV. Time to get our arses in gear and install floodlights like I planned to several months ago... spoke to our favourite electrician, he'll do it tomorrow.

While I've decided that #3GoodThings isn't the right fit for me, I've found I still like sharing daily stuff, even mundane stuff (sometimes _especially_ mundane stuff).

So my daily hashtags are going to be #today and #3things and I'll share three things I feel like sharing, each evening (or some evenings anyway). Probably just everyday life stuff. Let's see.

Today:

1. Feeling generally appreciative of my recent followers and those I recently followed (a mix of people posting and boosting about #neurodivergence, #music or #modelrailways). My feed's getting gradually richer and I've had some good comment convos.

2. Wife's 50th is next month and we're making arrangements for a 60-guest shindig at a local venue. It's her first birthday party in decades and I'm happy for her, but my #autistic anxiety is already rumbling with the thought of having to be there. It's an evening I will endure but not enjoy.

3. Our 3-day-old twin baby #goats are heart-stoppingly cute and both are doing fine, as is their mother. More pics soon.

3 things about Kane Parsons’ BACKROOMS [2026]

1. Mounds of discarded clothes; a “Stop Apartheid” t-shirt.
2. The excavator rips into the house.
3. Absurd belly shirt.

https://randomcha.net/2026/06/01/3-things-about-kane-parsons-backrooms/

#3things #movies #backrooms #scifi #cinema

3 things about Kane Parsons’ BACKROOMS

Backrooms [2026] Mounds of discarded clothes; a “Stop Apartheid” t-shirt. The excavator rips into the house. Absurd belly shirt. Any film which, consciously or not, evokes Robert A. Hei…

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3 things about Jerry London’s RENT-A-COP [1987]

1. A nice touch: he's a department store Santa at Carson's, not the more upscale Marshall Field's.
2. The hottest nightclub in Chicago is The Golden Gargoyle.
3. "Sometimes you have to go through a hell of a lot to find out what you're really good at."

#3things #movies #trash #lizaminnelli #burtreynolds #chicago #cinema

3 things about Angus MacLachlan’s A LITTLE PRAYER [2023]

1. Hiding the pregnancy test in the garbage.
2. Gently, she tells the child to stop bashing the tree.
3. He explains the meaning of “panorama.”

#3things #movies #northcarolina #davidstrathairn #janelevy #cinema

#3Things that bring me joy for WED: Day of Fern & Lavender
1. The color outside is POPPIN’!
2. The lady at Henery’s Hardware always looks out for me: saved me $40 in compost mix!
3. Potted up my babies in the greenhouse… here’s a big bowl of cilantro & spinach with plenty of room for them to grow
#3Things that bring me joy for TUES: Day of Thistle & Ginger
1. A perfectly ripe pear for dessert
2. Chipmunk sighting on the back porch this morning!
3. Caught the fleeting dog-tooth violet during its short blooming period under the mother cedar